The Fourth Paradoxical Commandment

Date May 19, 2008

The Mentorship Approach With Teams & Groups

The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway.

© Copyright Kent M. Keith 1968, renewed 2001

This isn’t really a revolutionary concept. In Shakespeare’s Julius Caesar Marc Antony delivers the line in one of the most-memorized speeches in the English language:

“The evil that men do lives after them; the good is oft interred with their bones.”

Of course, his goal was to get people to remember good deeds, but the pattern he described is true. What, then, is the point of doing good? Read the rest of this entry »

The Pomp And Circumstance Underground

Date May 12, 2008

Pursuit of Happiness: Money, Work, & Play

In ancient times – a little more than a century ago – education was about personal development. It was about exploring a variety of exciting things just because they were enjoyable. It was focused on finding ways to entertain the mind and the spirit through history, culture, art, music, and math.

Now education has become a factory to roll out little job-bots. Those poor little job-bots will graduate from high school and college this month and line up for their job-boxes. Want to make a difference? Read the rest of this entry »

The Right Condiments and Toppings

Date May 5, 2008

Elephant Burgers

Elephant Burgers is about different ways to approach large or ongoing projects and break them into achievable steps. It’s about creative ideas for tackling something overwhelming and making the boring parts more enjoyable. You might be able to stand the taste of that elephant by making it into burgers. But what happens when you get really tired of burgers?
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Kevyn Malloy

Date April 24, 2008

Striving and Thriving

As a young married woman with a degree in English Literature, Kevyn Malloy first chose the obvious path. She became a teacher, one of the few careers considered acceptable for women at the time. She could have stayed on that path and taught for decades. She could have risked just a little more ambition, taken her studies to a higher level, and become a college professor.

But the obvious path just isn’t Kevyn’s way. She doesn’t like to let other people limit her choices. She looks at what life brings her way, listens to her heart, and then chooses a plan. With her heart engaged and her mind set, she makes things happen.

That is how, with absolutely no experience or even the first idea about what she was doing, Kevyn left teaching and opened a restaurant. That became the second of four successful careers she has had so far.
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How To Talk So Kids Will Listen: The Long View of Childhood

Date April 21, 2008

The Mentorship Approach With Kids & Teens

All the skills, techniques, and perspectives provided by Faber and Mazlish give parents better relationships with their children. Many provide short-term results, and all of them are designed for long-term improvements in cooperation and communication. But one set of skills is specifically aimed at helping parents accomplish one of our most important jobs over the long run. Read the rest of this entry »

The Third Paradoxical Commandment

Date April 21, 2008

The Mentorship Approach With Teams & Groups

If you are successful, you win false friends and true enemies. Succeed anyway.

© Copyright Kent M. Keith 1968, renewed 2001

I didn’t see this extreme response to success while I was a business co-owner. That might be because our level of financial success was a steady, comfortable income, but it didn’t bump us up a few tax brackets.

But the response came when, quite by accident, we looked like we were being elitist with our new address! Read the rest of this entry »

Work, Money, & Play

Date April 14, 2008

Pursuit of Happiness: Work, Money, & Play

The categories are a little jumbled this month to reflect how a lot of us have gotten our thoughts jumbled. We think we need money in order to play, and to have money we need to “work” – implying a certain level of drudgery and sacrifice. We formulate it like this:

I need a j-o-b that pays more than my bills. Whatever I make above that I can use to play. The more I make the more I can play.

What happens when we take charge of the relationships between work, money, and play? Read the rest of this entry »

Why Don’t I Do Things On My To-Do List?

Date April 7, 2008

Elephant Burgers

Back in February I posted an Elephant Burgers article titled This Sounds Nuts! But I Think You’ll Like It. I gave a brief overview of a system for defining a long-term vision, setting annual goals, then breaking them into monthly pieces and eventually into daily steps. Boy, was I hot stuff!

Then a couple of coaching colleagues started asking questions about ways to organize their days to stay on task. I shared my system. They told me why it won’t work for them. There was a huge hole in my sytem! Read the rest of this entry »

Sometimes A Calling Is Very Personal

Date March 27, 2008

Sometimes A Calling Is Very Personal

Striving and Thriving

In 1994 Hilda Pacheco-Taylor visited Door of Faith (Puerta de Fe) Orphanage in Baja California, México. There were around thirty children in care at the home in La Misión, in the countryside near Tijuana. The buildings were in disrepair and overall conditions were shocking.

Things had deteriorated so much since she had last seen the home. That was when she left at age sixteen to find her mother, after spending eight happy and memorable years at the orphanage.
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How To Talk So Kids Will Listen: They’re Not Obeying; What Now?

Date March 26, 2008

The Mentorship Approach With Kids & Teens

You gave the first idea from How To Talk a try. You focused carefully on acknowledging your child’s feelings. You learned more about your child’s world, maybe you defused a couple of situations that were headed for tantrums or arguments, and you deepened your connection with your child. You felt great!

Then you tried the ways to engage cooperation. You described what you saw, you told your child what you expected, and you learned to summarize it all with a word – “Laundry!”

But there are still things you’re child won’t do, or things he or she keeps doing that aren’t allowed. What now? Read the rest of this entry »